# Diş buğdayı: the Turkish first-tooth celebration, and a handful of wheat

> In Anatolia a baby’s first tooth is celebrated with boiled wheat: neighbours are called, wheat is sprinkled over the baby’s head, and a row of objects is set out for them to reach for. At Muammer Esat’s diş buğdayı I found myself wondering where the custom comes from and what it still says to a mother today.

- Source: https://mesgalem.com/en/inspiration/dis-bugdayi-the-first-tooth
- Language: en-GB
- Author: Merve Çokal Doğan
- Published: 2026-09-27
- Category: Customs & Traditions
- Tags: Customs, First year, Anatolia

Muammer Esat’s first tooth came through on a Friday morning. I wasn’t the one who noticed; my mother was. In our flat in Konya she took him on her lap, drew his lower lip down with a finger and said, “It’s through.” Then, without pausing: “I’m soaking the wheat.”

I knew which wheat she meant, because I had seen the photograph of my own _diş buğdayı_: Zonguldak, a table, a small girl with grains of wheat in her hair. My four sisters have theirs too. Now it was my son’s turn.

## Why wheat?

Across much of Anatolia a baby’s first tooth is marked with boiled wheat. The name shifts from region to region — _diş buğdayı_, _diş hediği_, _diş aşı_ — but the shape is the same. Wheat is soaked overnight and boiled in the morning, then dressed with pomegranate seeds, walnuts, sugar, sometimes raisins. Neighbours are called. The baby is sat on a cloth and the wheat is sprinkled over their head through a fine muslin.

Why wheat? Because wheat multiplies. Plant one grain and you harvest an ear. With the first tooth, the old wish was that the child would multiply the same way — grow with abundance. And there is this: a tooth is the first sign that the baby will eat not only milk but “bread”. The wheat is that threshold itself.

## The objects in a row

The best-loved part comes next. A few objects are laid in front of the baby: scissors, a pen, a mirror, a book, a string of prayer beads, a coin. Whichever they reach for is said to foretell them: scissors a tailor, the pen a scholar, the mirror beauty, the book learning.

Muammer Esat chose the pen. Then he put the pen down and reached for the pomegranate seeds. My mother laughed: “This one will find his own way.” He still does.

Nobody truly believes in the choice. But everybody watches, and everybody remembers. Because it is the first time a baby visibly _chooses_ something. What matters is not the thing chosen but the choosing.

## Why do we still do it?

I have thought about this a lot. After we moved to İstanbul we held diş buğdayı for Hamza Bera and Mehmet Emde as well — my mother far away, the neighbours barely known. We did it anyway.

I think it is because the first year is the one year in a mother’s life when nothing stands still. Every week something changes — weight, sleep, a sound, a length — and none of it is _celebrated_. Diş buğdayı is the one day in that restless year when everyone stops. The wheat soaks, a neighbour comes, the baby sits on the cloth, and for a moment everyone says: “Look — they’ve grown.”

We mark the fortieth day; we mark the first birthday. Between them lie six months. Diş buğdayı is the only feast in the middle.

## How to do it at home

- **Soak the wheat the night before.** A glass of wheat berries under two fingers of water. In the morning simmer until soft; chickpeas can go in too.
- **Dress it with what you have.** Pomegranate seeds, walnut halves, raisins, a little sugar or cinnamon. None of it is compulsory — my mother’s had only pomegranate.
- **Use a muslin.** The wheat is not poured directly but sprinkled through a fine cloth, so nothing gets in the baby’s eyes or tangles in their hair.
- **Choose the objects yourself.** Scissors and a pen are classic, but a string of beads, a tape measure, a spoon — anything. The list doesn’t matter; the reaching does.
- **Keep a handful of the wheat.** Dry it and put it in a small cloth pouch. Years later that pouch will say more than the photograph.

  Write down the first object the baby chose, with the date. Not a photo — words. “Took the pen, put
  it down, reached for the pomegranate.” Read it to them at five; again at fifteen.

## What gets kept alongside the wheat

We keep a handful of the wheat; when the tooth itself falls out years later, we keep that too. The hospital band, the first curl, the first tooth. The small things of the first year all want a place, and too often that place is the corner of a drawer.

## Pomegranate seeds

Muammer Esat is grown now; he gets on well with pens and with pomegranates alike. In the photograph from his diş buğdayı he sits on a cloth with wheat in his hair, one hand stretched towards the red seeds. My mother’s voice is still in my ear: “This one will find his own way.” He did.

## Sources

- [Vikipedi — Diş buğdayı (Turkish)](https://tr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Di%C5%9F_bu%C4%9Fday%C4%B1)